Usually the signs that someone is controlling is so subtle at first that they’re easy to miss. However, it is never too late to get out of a destructive relationship. Here are 10 signs that you may be in a controlling relationship.
Constantly calls you. A controlling person will call you constantly throughout the day. They need to know where you are and what you are doing at all times.
Checks your cell phone history and emails. A controlling person doesn’t want you to have any privacy and will demand to know who you are talking to throughout the day.
Jealous personality. A controlling person will fall into a jealous rage, or a jealous pout, when you talk to anyone of the opposite gender.
Very quick attachment. A controlling person will latch on to you very quickly. Within a few days or weeks of meeting, a controlling person will profess their love for you or talk about moving in together. They may even make outrageous claims such as “I would die without you”.
Tries to keep you from seeing your friends and family. A controlling person’s goal is to separate you from any emotional support.
Blames you for things that you have no control over. Somehow that flat tire he/she got going to the store to pick up cold medicine for you is your fault.
Only thinks of themselves. It is okay if he or she stays out late with friends without calling but it is not okay for you to do the same. They will break plans with you without a second thought but if you break plans there will be a huge argument.
Destroys your self esteem. Belittles you in front of others or corrects you in a mocking manner. A controlling person will often tell exaggerated stories about a mistake you made and how they had to save the day.
Always vetoes your ideas. If you want to go to the movies, they want to stay in. If you want to stay in, they want to go out to eat. There is no compromise in this relationship. You are always doing what the other person wants to do.
Your opinion is always wrong. You have to agree with every opinion that he or she has. They actually get angry with you if you don’t agree with something they said or believe.