How To Stop Being Insecure

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  1. When letting your mind run wild with excuses and depressed thoughts, simply repeat to yourself “I do not believe my thoughts.” Life coaches give this advice to people all of the time, because insecurity is not REAL or tangible, you can’t touch it, or give it to someone, it is a product only if your own mind. Therefore, simply tell yourself, “I do not believe my thoughts.” Take deep, serious looks at the physical and tangible world around you – see insecurity anywhere? You may as well be fearing a hot pink, furry boogie man hovering in the corner in your room ready to attack you. Both are fears of the MIND.

  2. Pretend to be someone new if you’re lucky enough to meet a casual acquaintance. This is a great exercise. Even if you’re in a situation where you normally wouldn’t meet anyone new, talking to a stranger is a key in and of itself to fight insecurity. But if you’re out at a bar or club with friends and meet someone, be somebody completely different. Tell them you have a different job, name, familial situation, educational background, be as creative as you can. Why is this helpful? First of all, it’s fun as hell, and secondly, you’ll find that when you are pretending to be someone else, you don’t feel insecure! The mentality develops, “I don’t have anything to lose because this person doesn’t know me at all!” What to take away from this exercise and to remember later on is, you NEVER have anything to lose! You can be YOURSELF and have all of the fun, positive feelings you generate when being someone else. This is an exercise to show you that insecurity is product of your own mind, caused by feelings of inferiority, these go away when you’re pretending to be someone else, and that should help you realize that such feelings should not be there in the first place!

  3. After having fun and being someone else for a while, have that same positive attitude when introducing your true self to people, and combine that with reassuring yourself that insecurity is only an illusion of your mind.

  4. Here is a rule you must always follow when stopping your insecurity and taking charge of your own life. Never compare yourself to anyone else. If you see a beautiful thin woman in the street, do not look at her and immediately jump to “I am not like that. I am different. Why am I like that? I wish I were like that.” First of all, pining in your head is never going to make you like that – so again, tell yourself, “I do not believe my thoughts.”


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