Emotions are both mental and physical. They influence us through glands within our bodies. They can be helpful or they can be harmful. Emotions can be harmful to our personalities and affect our relationships with society. Negative emotions can weaken our ability to effectively get through everyday tasks.
Try to avoid situations that arouse negative emotions. If a specific person has the tendency to upset you, try to avoid associating yourself with that person as much as possible. Don’t start arguments with people. Go into discussions calmly and respect other peoples beliefs and outlooks. If their beliefs upset you, then avoid bringing that subject up. You can’t control the emotions themselves, but you can control the situations that bring the emotions about and learn to avoid those that upset you.
Don’t dwell on negative emotions. If someone says something that upsets you, don’t sit around thinking about it or replaying it in your head. The same goes for any other situation that causes you to be upset. If you dwell on it, you intensify the emotions that the situation brought about. You are capable of forming a habit of passing over those situations lightly and not letting them bother you as much as dwelling would allow them to. All it takes is the will to have a strong mind and a strong hold on your thoughts.
Counteract your negative emotions by turning your attention to things that generate positive emotions. Watch a funny movie. Play a game that you enjoy. Read a good book. Have fun with your friends. Turn your attention to things that make you happy.
Don’t try to pretend it never happened. Accept that it happened and move on to happier things. If you try to block it out, it will only grow and build up until your emotions explode and you can no longer ignore it. It’s a bad memory and it upset you. You can’t erase the memory and there’s no point in trying to. It happened, but it’s the past and you can move on from it now.
Counteract anxiety. If you’re in a situation that causes anxiety, focusing your attention on that anxiety will only make it stronger. Learn to relax. Develop a relaxed posture and think relaxing thoughts. The more you do this, the easier it becomes to avoid anxiety.
Develop experience with handling situations that cause a response of negative emotions. Though you should avoid such things as arguments and fights, other things can’t be avoided and simply need you to experience yourself with handling that situation. For example, if talking to people in general causes you to feel afraid and anxious, then talk to more people and eventually those negative emotions will no longer affect you so much.
Discus your negative emotions with other people. If you have close friends or family members that you’re comfortable talking to, then discuss your problems with them. You can even see a psychiatrist and discuss your problems with them. Negative emotions are harder to deal with if you hold them all inside. They’re easier to manage if you share them with people you trust.
Participate in group activities. Doing things with a group of people tremendously lessens fear of many things over a period of time. Don’t just be there. Participate. Speak to the other members of the group. Share your thoughts and ideas. Put forth an effort. It can be a small effort at first, but never backslide. Keep pushing forward and it will get easier and easier each and every time.
Don’t let yourself get lonely. Loneliness is one of the most depressing emotions that you can experience. Keep your family close and do activities together. Hold onto your friends and make new ones. Get out of the house and into the public. Don’t sit around dwelling on your loneliness.
Overcome your emotions by understanding them. Figure out what you’re afraid of and why you’re afraid of it. What about this particular thing triggers your fear or anxiety? What are the things that upset you and make you angry? Understanding your feelings will help you overcome negative feelings.
As cliché as this may seem, count to ten. If something happens to cause negative emotions, delay your response to that emotion. Count to ten before you react to the situation. This will allow you to collect yourself and avoid an emotional outburst.
Sometimes, though, things should make you angry and you should let yourself be angry and not try to turn your attention to happier things. For example, if you see someone bullying someone else, you should get angry about that and use your anger to help the victim. Don’t run over to the bully and beat him or her up, but also don’t turn away and look at the pretty flower to convince yourself that the world is beautiful. Let yourself feel angry and use that anger to help the victim in a positive manner. Afterword, you’ll feel good about yourself and you’ll help the victim feel good as well and possibly teach a bully a good lesson.