For most parents we have at least one child we feels it’s o.k.. to talk back or just feels the need to talk back in order to be heard. Not only is this disrespectful to parents but it’s a bad habit to have. Children do need to be heard but in a respectful manner. They need to understand that when a parent makes a decision it’s in the best interest of the child, therefore they need to respect that decision. A parent it’s up to use to put an end to the back talk , not only for our sake but for the sake of our child’s future relationships. There arc a few key points to follow in order for the back talk to end and allow your child to express themselves.
Start by saying what you need to say and nothing more. Don’t answer questions don’t start or don’t get involved in an argument. Let your child understand that your final word is your final word.
- Step 2
If your child has a complaint, allow him to present it as long as it’s in a respectful manner. If his statement ends up being a question as to why things are a certain way, don’t answer it. You are the parent and you don’t have to answer to a child. If you do you are showing that they have some sort of power.
- Step 3
If your child is the type to debate with certain issues then you need to make rules for the debating time and debating boundaries. When there is a debate session, allow your child to talk as long as there is no voices are raised and stay quiet while the other person is making their statement. Also let them know when there are issues that are not debatable. Just tell them that this issue is not open for discussion.
- Step 4
Instead of demanding things, offer your children options. This gives them a sense of responsibilities. Instead of saying do your chores. Ask them “What do you want to do first your chores or your homework. This instills in them the importance of making choices.