After the couple is back on track they might still encounter reminders of the tough time they once had. They may hear of a friend splitting up because of their infedelity. Or maybe a movie they may be watching is about innfedelity, this could bring back painful memories for the betrayed person.Especially if the other person lives around you or works with your partner, this could really be a hard thing to deal with.By saying things like get over it or it’s no big deal will not help the situation at all.The betrayed must ask themselves if they want to remain committed to this person,am I willing to ask trusting to this person or am I willing to forgive?
If you are th unfaithful you must make sure you break all ties and connections with your lover.This will help you from making this mistake again. If you don’t do this your relationship cannot begin to heal. Try the following steps so that you can begin the healing process.
- Step 1
Rebuilding Intimacy Through Thought
If you are the betrayed partner you must find ways to think more positively and hopefully about the scarred relationship.
Questions you nees to think about: do I want to remain committed to this person who betrayed me.?
Am I willing to act trusting to this person?
Am I willing to offer forgiveness.
Listen to your heart and it won’t lie it’s either yes or no.
- Step 2
Building Intimacy Through Talk
You must realize that no answer to Why? will ever be good enough. These questions are always asked in the beginning but you will not find any of those answers useful. Your goal is to focus on what is working and what is improving the relationship.
- Step 3
Rebuilding Intimacy With Touch
The next step could be a little difficult. You may have mixed feelings about being touched or anything that has to do with sex or affection. If you are the unfaithful partner, accept when you are told no. Say that you understand and try to do just that.Persistance if done with sensitivity and understanding usually pays off.
- Step 4
Rebuilding Intimacy Through Togetherness
This may be a little easier than any of the other steps In the beginning a getaway together may not be such a great idea.I will bring images of the infedelity to the person who was betrayed.By just getting out of the house together will allow the both of you to relax and possibly feel more comfortable to talk.