We’ve all been there on a date that was going well and you don’t hear from the other again or they done something wrong that doesn’t lead you to stay interested. Well, here are 10 things not to do on a date especially if you want to see this person again.
#10 Don’t be late
When on a first date it is very important to be on time. It shows that you actually care about meeting them and have an interest. If you’re late, it may show that you don’t really care and aren’t respectful of other peoples time. So always be on time or even early and if for some reason you are running late, be respectful of the other person and call them and tell them that you are going to be a little late due to whatever reason.
#9 Don’t show up like you just got out of bed
Honestly, if someone showed up to a date with me looking like that, I would leave them then and there. When going on a date, you need to take some time and properly groom yourself. Wear clothes that you would wear on a date…that means don’t dress like you do to work on your car or even to work in most cases, and girls, definitely don’t wear clothes that are too revealing. The first date is to get to know each other and see what you have in common to see if you should pursue something further. This date isn’t to try to get in the others pants… Just dress appropriately. There are other dates and places that you can wear your more reveling clothing.
#8 Don’t talk about yourself all night
You’re on a date to get to know each other. Don’t be too self centered by talking about yourself all night, but actually take the time to ask questions and learn about your date. It shows that you actually care about the other and want to learn about them. It shows that you are interested in them. You won’t know if the other person is right for you if you don’t actually take the time to find out.
#7 Don’t talk about your ex’s
Again, you are there to learn about the other and to see if you both are right for each other and you’re not there to talk about your ex’s. It’s alright to say how many people you’ve dated and how long it’s been since the last relationship, but don’t go on and on about an ex. It’ll show that you still have an attachment to them and that there are still some unresolved issues. No one wants to become a third wheel, and with constantly talking about an ex, will make the one you’re on a date with feel exactly that.
#6 Don’t drink too much
It’s not a good idea to drink before a date. It may be tempting because it helps calm you down and get over your nerves about meeting someone new. But you never want to go on a date being drunk. It shows the other person that you are dependent on alcohol and even that you’re too afraid to be yourself. It’s a big no no to drink a lot while out on a date. Do you want to be throwing up and stumbling everywhere? I really don’t think you want to, so be careful if you do drink during the date… sip it slowly and only have two or three drinks.
#5 Don’t lie
Sometimes we may not be comfortable with who we are and try to be someone we are not. It’s easy to let a lie slip out about something, even in times you don’t mean to. We tend to try to say things and act a certain way because that’s how we want to be perceived. Honestly, if someone wants to love you they will love you for who you are, not who you are trying to be. All I can say is just be yourself, avoid lying and let the other fall in love with the amazing person you really are.
#4 Don’t appear desperate
One of the worst things you can do is appear desperate during a date. Don’t push for anything to happen between the two of you. If there is going to be any kind of future, let it happen naturally. Especially don’t be like you want to get married to your date as soon as possible and have a set number of children. That person will totally run the other way and not give you a second chance. You’re here to get to know the other person and see if they are a match for you. It’s a fun time. Just take things slow and enjoy the ride. There is nothing to rush into.
#3 Don’t talk about body parts in a sexual way
The person that you’re on a date with is most likely looking for something more than sex. They are in search of their life partner. Be respectful of them and don’t talk about sex or body parts during that first date. If sex is something that you are only looking for, be forward to that person so they know if it’s a waste of time or not. It’s rude to waste someone’s time and not being respectful to them.
#2 Don’t plan a date where people know you
One of the things that you don’t want to have happen when you’re on a date is that friends or even other ex’s are where you’re having the date. Avoid places where people who know you go. If they see you, they are more than likely come over and stay longer than they are welcomed. It’ll be awkward in most cases for your date and they’ll begin to wonder that the friends mean more than spending time with them… After all you are on a date with someone and not with your friends.
#1 Avoid political and religious talks
The person you are with may have different views than you, so it’s best to avoid these types of conversations on the first date, unless you want to get in arguments about it. I’ve been there and it’s no fun to have the other push their beliefs or where they stand with certain issues and if you don’t believe the same, then they don’t want anything to do with you… It’s best to get to know the other person and then talk about your differences; it would be better and often you can see around the differences because you really truly like the person enough to do so… Having differences don’t hurt, but just take my word for it that you need to avoid confrontational topics on that first date.