If gender is fixed at birth…..
if one is born homosexual or heterosexual;
if one isn’t ‘turned’ into a homosexual because mommy
dressed him in pink sleepers; or chose to be a lesbian to
escape abusive relationships with men…
then from whence does bisexuality spring?
Bisexuality implies choice; implies that gender is not
fixed but flexible. One can engage in sexual relations
with John or Jane; the choice left to the ego.
Clearly, this would fly in the face of current hypothesis
concerning gender orientation. This would imply that far
from being ‘wired’ into our brains, sexuality is a choice.
Is it a choice?
Is there such a thing as true bisexuality?
Or is it a ‘beard’ to deny homosexuality?
Some homosexuals speak of the early years when they claimed
to be ‘bi’ as the pressure of society (actual and inferred) and
their own ambivalence (or need to conform), put them into
relations with the opposite sex.
Their interest in same sex coupling was ‘always’ there,
but they resisted the temptation, because they wanted to
At some point they participated in homosexual relations,
ran back to the ‘safety’ of heterosexuality, until such time
they could accept the fact that they were homosexuals.
Although one could dismiss this as anecdotal evidence
the fact so many homosexuals admit a period of time in
which they did not identify themselves as ‘Gay’ tends to
grant credance to the state of ‘bi’ as a transition point.
In parity to this, are, of course, those who have ‘always’
been straight or gay with no desire for any experimentation.
This would confirm the postulate that gender preference is
fixed and that attempts to ‘redirect’ are doomed to failure.
If there are mature bisexuals, persons who continue to indulge
in satisfactory sexual encounters with both sexes, then the entire
comprehension of ‘fixed’ sexuality would be disproved.
This would mean that one could ‘change’ a person from one
preference to another.
The concept of ’emotional woundedness’ and the citing of
homosexuality as a symptom of this damage would have a
One can not, (no pun intended) have it both ways.
If sexuality is fixed, then one is either/or.
If sexuality is not fixed then homosexuality is a choice.