Are you overly obsessed with his ex-girlfriend? There are some of us that seem to be obsessed with our boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend. How did you learn about his ex anyways? Did you ask him about it or snoop into his closet when he’s not there? If he never tells you about her, it will be hard for you to know anything about her. This is why you should never ask about his ex-girlfriend unless you accidentally run into her photos. If you ask about her, you can’t help it but will be obsessed with her. This is how some women are naturally. They seem to compare themselves with a lot of other people because they have a lower self-esteem or that they are insecure or feel that their boyfriend don’t love them enough. There is a reason for your obsession too. If you know that he loves you enough then there is no need to be obsessed with the ex-girlfriend.
They’re called an ex-girlfriend for something. There must be a reason why they’re an ex and if it was all good they would not be an ex anyways. They would still be together and you will not be in the picture at all. You have to tell yourself that they no longer like each other or are in love with each other because if they are still in love with each other, they would still be with each other. This is the reality of it. You have to tell yourself and accept that too. If you don’t get it then it’s time to repeat this to yourself until you do get it, you should repeat it daily for ten times a day until you really understand it. It’s hard not to compare yourself and everyone does this but it’s time to say that if he really wants to be with her, he will be with her but he’s with you so you should let the obsession go.
If it will help you any further, you can ask him why they broke up and the reason why he doesn’t want to be with her anymore. If you know these reasons then it will help you out more. You will be able to let go of the obsession after you learn the negative reasons why they’re not together anymore. If it helps even further, you can ask him why he wants to be with you. He will tell you that you’re lovely, smart, and sweeter than his ex and these reasons will make you more confident about yourself. It’s like opening a Pandora box, you will want to know everything about her so you should never open it in the first place. Love is not about competing with other women sometimes. You have your own sweetness and why you would make your man happy. If you want to compare yourself to the world then there will always be someone who is prettier than you or wealthier than you so you should stop comparing.