So you start to see signs that your little one is not the quite like everyone else. They do things that are just a little off. So you research and try and find the answer and then take them to the doctor and get the diagnosis. Now what? Well raising a child with Pervasive Developmental Disorder is not always easy. But parents all around the world are doing it everyday.
Here are some simple tips to help you maintain that even keel that most kids with Spectrum Disorders need.
- Try and maintain a routine. If you must go out and do something like an appointment which is not part of the routine, prepare the child and bring something from home that makes them feel safe and happy
- Avoid crowd if at all possible, and if you have to go somewhere like the store with your child keep them focused on you, this will help them to tune out some of the noise and movement that can upset them
- If your child has a certain tick (touching everything, counting everything, only standing to play, etc.) and you are out, simply explain to other people that is how your child process and explores his/her world. Let them think what they like. YOU are being a good parent, by not adding more stress to your little one who is already not comfortable, by not pushing them to conform to what society thinks your child should be doing. You can actually cause more harm by trying to make them sit still, quiet, and so on.
- Realize that you are going to have days where you think or say that you just wish they were normal. You are also going to have days where you think you are not doing enough or are not a good enough parent or did something to cause your little one to have PDD. Both of which are not true, your just having and bad moment and push on, think of some milestone that you little one has reached that amazed you and realize you helped them do that. You are both amazing.
These are just few things that you can do to help your life stay smooth while parenting one of these amazing children. Take each day as it comes and give you and your little one room to improve and relax. You will both be making adjustments and that is how we all grow. I am a parent to one of these precious kiddos and I have learned these things all too well. I have taken the time to train my son and he has taken the time to train me. It has been a learning process and we have loved each other through every trial. So keep calm and find the fun and joy that you can both share.
There are more parents out there and more joining the ranks everyday. Informing yourself on the subject of PDD and finding other’s in your area are just few other things you can do to help you as the parent cope with these situations. I have a suggestion for reading Autism Spectrum Disorders: The Complete Guide to Understanding Autism, Asperger’s Syndrome, Pervasive Developmental Disorder, and Other ASDs by
Chantal Sicile-Kira also there are many forums to join, I like the one at Interactive Autism Project . They offer an online community as well as a place to research.