Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so.
Douglas Adams (1952 – 2001), “Last Chance to See”
“Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so.” Douglas Adams (1952 – 2001), “Last Chance to See”
You’re sitting at home, crying your eyes out – either after yet another break-up, or some other emotional event – at the same time realizing how you allowed your heart to rule over your head once again. You had sworn that you would never have fallen in love again with such horrible people as last time, thinking you would recognize the signs : the lewd and sarcastic comments, the constant put-downs, and the complete undermining of your free spirit and sense of well-being.
And so it seems that a never-ending cycle of hurt a pain awaits us all. We deem ourselves to be the smartest animals on the planet who vow to learn from our mistakes, and yet we repeat them. The abused may leave their abuser, but can often end up in another abusers path. How come? Surely it must be madness?
No. I think not. Otherwise we’d be all mad. You see, we can be so desperate for love that we put it up above our own self-respect. We end up looking for somebody for us to love, instead of somebody who loves us back.
This can only remedied by learning to love ourselves first. And it is only when this happens that you’ll become wiser, and your head will have more control over your heart – a certain defense against bad judgements in life.