Today I would like to talk a bit about relationships. I have to say that I have a lot of experience on the subject and have been giving advice to friends and family on the subject for a while now, which is why I would like to give my opinion on what a fulfilling relationship is.
Guys and girls out there, if you have a boyfriend, spouse or lover and you are questioning your relationship, then this is for you. One of my friends recently asked me how to know if you are in love. I will tell you the same thing that I told her.
1. If you are really in love, you would not be asking if you are in love. When you are in love, you just know it and know that it is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to you and you never want it to end.
2. If you love someone, there are moments when you are maybe eating together or watching a movie together or just not doing anything at all and you suddenly feel a rush of energy from within, with the instant realisation that you do love him/her and that you are truly happy. You know that you have found your soul mate when he/she is doing something disgusting like picking his/her nose or anything of the sort, and you still think it’s the cutest thing you have ever seen. (yup that’s right!! 😀 )
3. Some couples, if not most couples, fight over the stupidest things but that doesn’t mean that they do not love each other or that they aren’t happy. In fact, it shows that they still care about each other and still take the time to argue about their divergent opinions to try come to an agreement. Fighting is absolutely fine!
Having experienced it, I believe or rather, I know that true love does exist but it isn’t a spontaneous process like some people think it is. It takes time to sincerely and whole-heartedly love someone for who he/she really is but, at the same time, love involves a lot of sacrifice and compromise. True love is in itself a blend of passion, romance, adaptation, trust, understanding, communication but, most importantly, friendship. You cannot love someone if you are unable to tell him/her everything that you would tell your best friend. If you are in a couple and things aren’t quite working out, you have to sit down and find out how each one of you can put some effort into making it work. It cannot be a one-man process!
Single people out there, I assure you that you all deserve to find true love and you will! Do not despair if you recently got out of a serious relationship or are feeling lonely because you will find happiness one day. Things always have a way of working out and, always remember, life will never give you a burden that you cannot handle. I will end with this, Be strong and always have faith!
Until my next post, take care and good night! 🙂