- Confirm the pregnancy. Even if you took 10+ at home pregnancy tests at home, it’s a good idea to go to a family planning clinic in your area and get a test there. It is about the same thing but there is a smaller chance of user error since workers are licensed nurses who know how to properly administer a urine pregnancy test. If you request it, they can even give you a blood test. These clinics usually offer these services at a free or discounted rate. Try going on plannedparenthood.com to find a clinic near you.
- Consider your options. One option is keeping the baby. Have these questions in mind if you are considering keeping the baby. Do I want the baby? Can I afford to raise this baby? Am I emotionally ready and mature enough to raise this baby? If you are worried about the cost of prenatal and child care, don’t forget that there are state programs that help low income or single mothers. You’ll have to do a lot of additional research but it will be well worth it. In the state of California, Presumptive Eligibility is available to every woman who is pregnant, even if she is undocumented. Through this program, you will be able to get prenatal care and hospital delivery care for free. Check if it is offered in your state.
- Consider your options. Another option is abortion. It is very helpful to visit forums where women who have had abortions have posted. Make sure you read the postings of both the women who did not and did regret the abortion. This might be a good option if you are not physically or emotionally healthy enough to carry a baby. However, you shouldn’t be swayed into this option just because it might seem like an easy alternative. Make sure you understand the consequences. If you feel like you will be physically harmed by someone else if you don’t get the abortion, there are programs and clinics that can help. Call a hotline or visit a family planning clinic if you need help.
- Consider your options. Another option is open adoption. Many people don’t fully understand or know the differences in adoption. In a closed adoption, you would give up your rights to the baby after birth. You would not know who the baby went to live with. In an open adoption, you would meet couples who want a baby and you would be able to pick the couple you want to give your baby to. The open adoption agency would only help you and provide support. They do not have the final say in who gets to keep your baby, YOU do. You can even arrange for the parents to send you pictures or letters every so often. You can even visit your baby if you choose to do so.
- Once you have a good idea of what your options are and what you think you want to do, it’s a good idea to talk to a few people you trust. It might be helpful to get another person’s point of view.
- Once you make your decision, do the next step. If you plan on carry the baby and either picking to raise the baby or open adoption, it is important to get prenatal care. If you don’t have insurance yet or are waiting for your Presumptive Eligibility benefits, some clinics offer your first prenatal exam for free. It’s very important to start at the beginning and take good care of your baby. If you decide to have an abortion, make sure you start taking contraception afterwards. Clinics like Planned Parenthood offer a variety of birth control and will never turn you away because of your inability to pay.