When you’re with your friends, you want to act like yourself so that you can be comfortable around them without having to hide anything. Everyone wants to be him or herself because everyone wants to be honest; honesty is a powerful virtue, and if you’re honest, then people will trust you. Therefore, if you act like yourself around your friends, then it’s a sign that you’re trustworthy because you’re being honest with them. Despite all this, do your friends know the real you? Are there still habits that you change when you’re around your friends? Are you hiding behind a mask whenever you’re with a group of people?
It’s natural for people to want to hide things they believe are embarrassing. Do you think you have a weird laugh? Do you have a tendency to make flippant remarks from which others might take offense? Of course, when you’re with your friends, you’ll change these habits or traits: you’ll hide these little “annoyances” so your friends won’t ostracize you or make fun of you. It’s understandable that you don’t want to do anything stupid while you’re around friends, but does this mean that you’re keeping the real you from your friends?
People hide things from each other, whether they’re important or trivial characteristics. Now, showing people the real you isn’t synonymous with acting like you’re the only person around. For example, if you like sitting around all day without pants on, would you do that when your friends are around? Probably not; but is that a big deal? Not at all! You really do need to clean yourself up when you’re around friends because there are just some things you can’t do in public. You don’t have to change yourself completely, but just think about how you would present yourself in public before you hang out with friends.
At some point or another, we all need to put on a happy face when we don’t feel very happy at all. Is this hiding? Yes, it’s a form of hiding, but it’s not necessarily a bad thing. If you and your friends just want to have a good time, it’s not the worst act in the world to smile and put off your venting and crying until later. If the real you happens to be sad, then it’s okay to put that sad part away for the sake of your friends.
Now, some people have major flaws that they’d like to get rid of; are these part of one’s real personality? Some people just can’t keep their mouths shut, but if they try to, are they hiding their real personalities? As aforementioned, cleaning yourself up around friends isn’t a crime; however, you shouldn’t jump through hoops to make your friends like you. If you have a trait, such as a way of speaking, that you can’t seem to change, then don’t stress too much; find some people to spend time with that will accept you for who you are.
You shouldn’t have to change that much about yourself when you’re around your friends. For example, I used to be a fairly shy person, but I’d go out on a limb and make an effort to talk more around a group, even though it wasn’t my personality and it made me uncomfortable. But now that I’ve been changing that little trait for a while, I’m so used to it that I hardly need to think about it anymore. Trying to fit in with your friends isn’t the most important thing in the world, but if you really care about it, then you should focus on eliminating your negative qualities.
If you can make yourself into a better, more likable person on your own, then you really can be yourself around your friends because you’ll change. When you first start hanging out with a new group of friends, they might not know the real you; however, they might get a preview of the new, improved you.