Overcoming Shyness

What is shyness? According to Webster’s Dictionary, Shyness implies a timid reserve and a shrinking familiarity or contact with others.

Shyness may occur in individuals in different times of their life’s or for most of their adult life as well. Usually people are shyer if they find themselves in an unfamiliar situation or around people that they do not know. Usually, a shy person feels nervous and frantic in these situations, with a great fear of making a fool out of one self.

Go on interviews. Sooner or later you will have to face this and will have to go on a job-interview. Start going to at least one or two Staffing Agencies and ask feedback. After this you will have more confidence in your ability and will start acing the rest.

Take acting classes. Maybe just the thought of acting classes can be nerve-wrecking, but after the first classes it may be fun. Acting teaches you also a lot about non-verbal behaviors, which can make a difference, for example if you stand up straight and focus on eye-contact, one may feel more confident.

Smile at least at one stranger a day. If they don’t smile back, do not take it personally, and smile at the next until you find someone that will smile back. Don’t worry, you will find someone sooner than you think.

Sing in the shower. This may sound silly, but since you are in the comfort of your home, nobody is watching. At first, it may seem like it is not worth it, but singing in the shower, may make it easier to get out of you shell even outside the comfort of your own home.

Concentrate on a particular event, for example, giving a speech in front of a large group of people. At first you may imagine yourself, getting nervous and forgetting your words or even naked! Visualize this image until you get it where you are confident and give a great speech.

Go Karaoke, even if you don’t know how to sing. Make sure to go with supportive friends.

Volunteer. This is also a good way to get out of ones shell. Choose something that you interested in or care about, which will make it easier to communicate with stranger since there is already a common interest. I chose martial arts, which is a great way to build confidence as well and

 it does not hurt to learn a few self-defense moves.

Fake it till you make it. This may be a cliché but it can be true, if you fake to be less shy, eventually you will feel more confident

Now, these are not the only things that one can try, and one doesn’t have to try all of them at once. I have never beat my shyness but I have learned to hide it well, by taking acting classes and being always attracted to jobs that deal with people.

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