Always keep your promises. If you’re not sure that you can keep a promise when you’re about to pledge yourself to keep a secret or fulfill a task, then don’t make that promise in the first place. I always keep my promises, no matter what the consequences are. See, when you make a promise to someone, he or she is giving you his or her trust; if you don’t keep that promise, then you’ll violate your friend’s trust. Promises are truly binding contracts between friends that ensure that they help each other out. If you can’t keep a promise, then you can’t be a good friend.
I’ve made several promises in the past year, and I’ve kept them, even at my own expense. Do I feel bad about it? Definitely not. It’s worth knowing that I’ve done all I can to be a good friend, even if I’ve missed out on a few events or withheld a few secrets. When you are entrusted with a secret, you have made a promise to your friend that you won’t tell anyone whatever it is that’s secret; this is the promise that people break the most. Too many people tell each other’s secrets, which ruins friendships surprisingly quickly.
If you don’t live up to your words, then what good are you? Sure, it’s all well and good to say, “I promise that I’ll deliver your homework to your house because you’re sick,” but when you don’t get around to it and make up a feeble excuse such as “I forgot,” then people will believe that you’re not capable of being a good friend or doing anything for them. They won’t trust you with the simplest of tasks and won’t include you in their plans because you’re not trustworthy in their eyes. I’m a big fan of following through with my words, and I believe that you should really think things through before you get yourself involved in something you may not be able to see through to the end.
Another one of my biggest rules in life is to never give up. In a sense, keeping a promise is a lot like not giving up. You’re not giving in to the impulse to just throw away someone’s secret or get rid of the burden of fulfilling a job for him or her. If you don’t keep a promise, then you’ve given up on your friend. You know what that makes you? It makes you a quitter and a coward. People who give up without giving it a good try are quitters, and quitters never win. Also, people don’t like quitters because, let’s face it, quitters are weak, and our society really doesn’t like people with weak moral values.
I’ve made some promises for the future that are going to be incredibly tough to keep. It’s not going to be easy, but I live my life based on promises. Without promises, why do something? We humans need motivation to get through life, and a promise is a great motivational tool. I am motivated by promises that I have made to my friends; then again, I was motivated by some of my own desires to make those promises. Do I care? Not really; I want to be the best friend I can to the people I care about, and I’m not going to shrink away from that if it means a few days, weeks, or even months of complete and utter happiness. The truth is, I can have much more happiness if I put in the work now.
Never break a promise. If you break a promise, your friends will think you’re a liar. If your friends think you’re a liar, they won’t trust you. If your friends don’t trust you, they won’t want you to be around them at all. If your friends don’t want you around, you will have no one in your life who isn’t there because they’re obligated by a bloodline to be. And if you don’t have people in your life who love you because of your personality…well, that won’t feel very good, will it? It’ll make you feel lonely and depressed. Keep your promises, please. Make yourself a good friend.
If you find it hard to keep your promises, then you either don’t care enough about the person you make a promise to, or you haven’t been committing yourself to keeping the promises. Try hard to stop yourself from spilling secrets, keep reminding yourself when to follow through with assignments and appointments, and always write down anything that you’re afraid you’ll forget. In fact, you may want to tie a string around your finger to remind yourself to keep your promises.