Ending a relationship can take a toll on your life. You may feel like a part of you no longer exist and would rather not face the situation, but you must move on. To close this chapter of your life you must follow four steps; 1. Close, 2. Delete, 3. Explore, and 4. Vacate.
Things You’ll Need:
* STEP 1 – CLOSE
* STEP 2 – DELETE
* STEP 3 – EXPLORE
* STEP 4 – VACATE
CLOSE. If you don’t know why this breakup has occured or if you just need answers, now would be a great time. Meet your Ex somewhere to converse. This will be fine even over a private phone conversation. During this time get the answers to all of your questions. You can’t move on if you don’t have closure. Now, if they don’t want to talk with you know that oyu tried and let go. “Don’t Stalk Him/Her”, this could leave you in jail or mess up your reputation with those that you know. Just try to have a sensible coversation if you can so that you can move on. This to will be a great time to return any of his/her possessions that you still own.
DELETE. This is the part where you get rid of everything that reminds you of him/her. This includes deleting voice mails and emails, photos numbers in your phones, etc. Anything that will prohibit you from moving forward needs to be deleted from your life. If you don’t do this you will not be able to move forward. You have to except the fact that they are gone.
EXPLORE. Who are you? Find yourself. Allot of the time when we are in relationships we tend to loose site of our likes and dislikes and pay more attention on what satisfies the one we are dating. This time would be a great time to remind yourself of what makes you happy. Write down on a piece of paper, What do I enjoy doing?, Where would I love to go?, Who am I? , What do I dislike? and any other question that you can think of that will assist you in finding yourself again. If you don’t get around to answering all of these questions, don’t worry because you will have plenty of time to do so in the last step.
VACATE. Pack up your things because you are going on vacation. Take a weekend to spend with you. Check into a hotel preferably in another city and if this is impossible stay at home and tell everyone that you will be out of town for the weekend. Leave a emergency number with family just in case something should arise. If you are at a hotel tell the front desk to hold all calls and not to contact unless there is an emergency. Treat yourself during this time. Have dinner alone at a nice restaurants and check out a funny movie. DO NOT INVITE ANY FRIENDS. I say this so boldly, because although we love our friends we don’t want to include them in our “ME” time. Besides you don’t need anyone to remind you why you are doing this. This weekend you can do so much like read your bible, finish answering your questions, go to a spa, get your hair done, play golf, etc. Do what ever makes you “HAPPY”. Then when this is over, pat yourself on the back because you are a new person now.
WORDS OF WISDOM – Don’t let your ended relationship deter who you are as a person. You have so much to look forward to in life and there are many more people out there that would die to be with you. Think of this as part of the plan that God has intended for you to prepare you for life situations. Good luck and God Bless you!
Tips & Warnings
* Enjoy this time alone so that you can learn more about yourself.
* DO NOT INVITE ANY FRIENDS on YOUR vacation.
* Do not harass your Ex or stalk them, because if you do you could end up in jail
* Seek counseling if needed.