Perhaps you have been the victim to a broken heart. It’s not easy. In fact, it’s awful. It doesn’t matter whether you broke up with him or he broke up with you because either way, you’ve ended up with a broken heart.
The thing that most people resort to is pretend that they are okay. This is the wrong move. The longer you pretend and hold off your feelings, the longer the heartbreak will feel. So it’s okay…let yourself dwell and be sad and lie in bed wondering where things went wrong. Eat ice cream and chocolate, or whatever favourite treats you want. After about two weeks, you need to pick yourself up.
You need to make him feel like he made a mistake letting you go, and the only way to do that is to appear at your best. Sure, the break up affected you, but he does not have to know the gory details. Making him feel like he has lost something valuable will make yourself feel more valuable.
The plain and honest truth is that there is really no solution to a broken heart. Nothing will completely cure you of it, but many things can ease the pain. Time is the ultimate factor when it comes to heartache. With time, things will get better and it will not hurt as much. However, it cannot erase the pain completely. It will inevitably still remain, but the pain will decrease over time. Eventually, your heart will feel as if it is better. Not healed, but better. Because truthfully, that is all you can expect from a broken heart and that is all you can wish for, when you are crying on the bathroom floor, that one day it will get better and it won’t hurt so much.