Let’s put it this way, you have finally found out what you suspected all along – your husband is cheating on you. What will you do now? Will you hold your head in shame or will you do somehting about it? Will you confront him or simply pretend like you do not know the truth? Even if you choose the latter, your relationship is in serious trouble. Well, the question that is on your mind is will you stay or will you go? In this article, I’ll help you decide.
When You Know for Sure
If you really and truly know the truth, you are likely bewildered and confused. Realize that these feelings will get better with time. You simply have to let time heal and deal with the pain you are experiencing. Talk to people who love and care about you and get the support you need during these difflcult times. By doing this, you will put your needs first and begin to put together the pieces.
Do Not Throw Your Life Away
No matter how angry you are, you must concentrate on the present and future. You have your whole life in front of you and you must figure out what is best for you and your family. If you still love your spouse and want to make it work then there is nothing wrong with that. However, if you feel that you can’t trust him and would rather be on your own then that is understandable. Only you know what is best for you and your marriage.
Take time to figure it out.
Although it may be tempting to rush through things, you should take your time. Ponder your life with and without your spouse. Consider your entire family and how a divorce could effect everybody involved. In addition, figure out what staying together would mean as well. If you do decide to stay with your spouse, figure out what groundrules the marriage will have from this point on. For instance, you might decide that the two of you need marriage counseling or that he must switch jobs (if the affair was with someone at work). Whatever it is, make your decision known and make sure that you ex understands the groundrules.
Take drastic action.
Sometimes the thought that your husband may actually lose everything is enough to make him realize that have done something terribly wrong. If he realizes that he could lose you forever, he may turn things around.
In conclusion, you have a tough decision in front of you but if you follow the above mentioned tips, it will hopefully make it easier. Good luck.