Although most of us do not need any help when we try to make the right choice it is good to get a few pointers on the dating process to make it easier. My purpose with this article is simply to provide some guidelines to those of you who are going attempt to find the perfect partner.
1. – Getting Started
It is important to be sure about yourself and be sure about what you want so you will need to plan before you actually go out there and start dealing your cards.
Instead of going straight away into a singles’ chat flooded with people who have only one thing on their mind – sex, as you are looking for something more enduring, like a partner for life, we are going to have to be a little more patient.
Let’s start thinking about how is the person we are looking for. Which are his interests? More than searching someone with our interests we want a person which interests are compatible with ours. Then we simply go to a search engine to find chats or social networks where could be people with the same interest we have written and join them.
2.- Making Yourself Look Like A Million Dollars
Presenting oneself requires a lot of work and it does not must neglected. We have to prepare a profile seriously. Some tips here:
– If you are sending a picture of yourself be sure it is recent and a decent one.
– You have to find a middle space between modesty and vanity: facts have to be stated as facts.
– Don’t be bore. Try to make yourself sound as interesting as possible.
– Don’t lie. If you describe other people, sooner or later your partner will know it.
– Keep your profile as brief as possible.
3.- Letting The Relationship Blossom
Now that you have posted your profile and someone who appears to be a perfect match contacts you. What happens next?
Remember that you still do not know that person so it is best to be extremely cautious about giving out personal information.
You might meet a lot of people and even you might chat with a couple of them at the same time. It could be difficult to remember all the details so prevent possible errors by using nicknames or handles that can help you remember other people.
There are few topics that are best for the initial talks so that an intimacy is not developed and at the same time you do not have to struggle for matters of common interest. You can talk about the weather, sports, movies, music and even food.
But at the same it is in bad taste to discuss religion, politics and family matters in the initial stages. You can crack jokes but dirty jokes are an absolute no-no at least in the first few talks.
Once you have talked more than once or twice and you feel comfortable with the person you can give the person your e-mail address but remember this is the first step towards virtual intimacy so you have to trust your instincts and nothing else. This takes things out of the public chat rooms and into the private inboxes.
4.- Meeting Face To Face
Once you have started talking over the telephone, then the relationship has already taken wings, then is no reason to postpone a direct meeting. So what are we waiting for?
It is not advisable to invite someone home before you have really met the person. You had better choose a public place preferably somewhere where there are plenty of people around. That is why most couples prefer to meet in a restaurant over lunch or dinner.
When people sit together and have food together they get to know a lot about each other. Table manners tell us a lot about a person’s upbringing and background and you can learn a lot about a person by observing him or her eat. The second thing is that warm food has a wonderful effect on the human mind. It releases all those digestive juices and sets the tongue wagging. People loosen up a lot, especially after a glass of wine or two.
5.- Once Bitten…
Instead of putting all your eggs in one basket, keep the avenues open. Don’t just bank on one person, because if that doesn’t work out, you might lose heart. Only the every lucky ones get the right pick at the first go itself. For the rest of us, we just have to keep trying till we succeed.
Another advantage of trying out different people is that you can get to choose.
So that is all about it. You know everything that is to be known and the ball is now well and truly in your courts. So what are you waiting for, why don’t you go out there and make your presence felt and come back with the catch of a lifetime.
I don’t think that we have left any stones unturned and from here I’m sure that on your first date everything will be well in your control.
To your first dating success online!