Has there been a breakup in your world? Happens all the time but you want things to be different? Being back together again as you once were in your relationship is important to you. Definitely these are trying times and every time it happens it doesn’t get any easier.
This relationship reveals some strong emotions that emanate from you. Let’s see if I can spot some of them. Do you feel lost without him? That is a normal feeling response to have. Do you feel lonelier now that he is out of your life? Are you mastermindiing a plot to get him back at any cost?
You don’t have to be a master strategist to try and regain your relationship. As a matter of fact you just have to change your approach to the situation. Prior to the relationship turning south was it going too fast? Were you giving hints of a strong relationship as in marriage even though you were still dating? If he wasn’t ready for that type of commitment then you may have gotten him scared off.
People are like that.Unless they are ready for a lifelong relationship that type of talk has to be handled very diplomatically.
It could have been that he felt emotionally bound before himself making a decision that he wanted a marriage relationship. Each individual in the relationship really has to make that decision on their own and not be compelled to make it for them.
Maybe he felt too much force to follow while you were together with your needs. Not wishes but demands. Now understanding this view of human psychology you may need to take heed of yourself and your own personality.
Are you overbearing? Do you make statement ultimatums? You don’t have to answer to me but to yourself about this and be honest about it.
Men need to feel self-sufficient and need to feel that they are in charge of circumstances. They definitely need to have their space from time to time. Once a person feels trapped into a relationship without fully understanding it they may jolt out of the gate. In this case it may have happened that your boyfriend just needs time and space to figure out what they really want in life.
Relationships are like the game of chess. There are no instant moves in chess. You have to think 2 or 3 moves ahead of the current move. When you are dating the matter of marriage and long term commitment has to come naturally and on equal grounds.
Once things start getting too fast and assumptions are made that the male doesn’t agree too then you start having troubles. If they feel they aren’t ready then they’re not. If they feel pushed into a certain direction they certainly won’t feel comfortable.
To make sure that he wants a long term relationship you have to let him want it as much as you do. If he has gone out of your life temporarily you have to let it go for now. If he has gone into his own space and you really want to get back together again you will have to be very smart and selective on what you say from this point on.
Do not force the issue and you’ll have to start all over again re establishing the relationship that you once had. In fact just let him know that you aren’t pushing any type of agenda and let him know that you are available for him to talk anytime.
You need to let him feel like he’s calling the shots and that it’s on his direction for the relationship to get back on track.
Since there is no direction right now and you’ve let him know you’re still interested you need to make him feel like he’s chasing you. Once you do get back in a dialogue let him know of how important relationships are to you.
Let him know that you are looking for a long term commitment and that the dating game is past you and then leave the conversation at that.
Sometimes it takes drama to get the point across to get what you want out of life.