Throughout our lifetime most of us will encounter an intimate relationship with someone. Who to choose?…”She looks good but this other one has a great personality” or “He is so fine but this other guy is fun!” Picking who you want is a challenge itself. True, there are many fish in the sea but we must learn to deal with one good catch at a time. Yes, I am young but I’ve been through many experiences in the game to where I’ve played and been played, been the dumper and the dumpee, been hurt, depressed, joyful and the list goes on. One thing that I learned is playing with one’s emotions is NO JOKE! 🙁
Whether you know you’re doing or not has to be recognized as one of the most cruel things one can emotional do to another. Those that want to be pimps, or players or it just happened that you’re talking or dating more than one person have to look out for yourselves and others. We as the nature in humans are caught in our selfish desires and want to have our cake and eat it too. But day by day people are getting hurt and messing it up for the real sincere people out there.
Much like Tina Turner’s hit says “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” Love is the most loosely used word in the English Dictionary. A person tells another that they “LOVE” them. What does that mean? It’s loosing its meaning. I’ve been told that many times one minute and the next minute they hate me or with someone else. Maybe we need a new word because often the emotion called love is getting intertwined with the thought of wanting to love therefore making it confusing for that person and the relationship.
Being loved and in-love is nowadays synonymous. According to our GOOD BOOK: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” So why are more “worldly” couples making it more that “spiritual” couples? We sending out a message to the world that God’s way is not working. And that is false!
I understand there’s a mutual attraction between the two but if all you want is to be friends or to have sex then it needs to be understood from both parties rather than whispering sweet nothings just to get in the others’ pants. If you’ve ever been in an abusive relationship (emotional or physical) it’s not worth it…so get the HELL OUT! That is NOT love. Love shouldn’t hurt like that. If you feel as though you stuck and can’t get out…pray to God and HE’LL get you through. It’s okay to come home and get a few “I told you so’s” If you’re hurt now build your spirit back up…distance yourself from the “ex”. Don’t allow him/her to take emotional control. After a while, open your heart back up for it is not fair to the sincere romantics out there to be punished for what an unworthy person has done.
You never want to live in regret! Never settle either. For those in relationships and are happy….I applaud you. True love is measure by what you overcome as a couple. Thanks for reading!